I Am You

Who am I? I am me or at least I thought I was me but then I started listening to you and I learned that I was no one.

I am someone’s daughter, I am someone’s wife, I am someone’s mother, but I am not me. I am someone’s son, someone’s husband, someone’s lover.

I am someone you can talk to, I am someone you can hang out with, but I am not me. I am not me because you won’t listen, you’re so busy telling me who I am, and putting labels on me, but I am so much more. Who am I?

I am someone who likes to sit in front of a fire and stare into the flames. I like to walk on the beaches in the middle of a storm. I like to talk and take long walks. I like to have a laugh and yes, my sense of humour is warped, but I am someone who can love, and wants to be loved, and yet, you’ve never told me that you love me.

Who am I? I am you, I am the person that you see. I have hopes and dreams that I’m afraid to share. I get hurt and I have problems but I am me and I am real, just look around you.


3 Funerals and An Asthmatic Dog

Nana rang on Monday ‘cause Poppa had passed away

a heart attack or so she said, during the tennis replay.

The funeral’s on Thursday, don’t forget to bring a plate

don’t worry if you’re held up, ‘cause Poppa was always late.

On Tuesday Uncle Ted called, as Bessie the cow had died

the old girl had cancer, he explained as he cried.

So she’s going to be buried, in the paddock next Friday

in memory of her service, provided faithfully each day.

Wednesday arrived without a hitch, well until it was almost over

when sure enough, from far away came a call from Dover

Sound asleep I was, when the phone rang ‘bout midnight

to tell me Auntie Sue had succumbed, to the effects of a spider bite.

Sure I’ll come to Tassie and mourn my aunt’s demise,

yes, it was a shock but with this week no surprise.

And then the dog started to cough, I swear I almost cried

sounded like a smoker’s cough. It wouldn’t stop no matter what I tried.

So here I am at 2 in the morn calling for a vet

needless to say it started to rain, so he arrived soaking wet.

He took her temp and listened for any unusual sound

it’s a chronic case of asthma, he finally declared out loud.

Of course, I’ll need some x-rays, and then there’s, tablets for the cure

it won’t be long and she’ll bounce back, of that he was quite sure.

I can’t believe the week I’ve had; I think I’ll start a log

the first entry has to be, three funerals and an asthmatic dog.

Gorge Yourself Stupid

Fasting is actually good for us occasionally. It has been found to help fight against cancer and of course we need to fast for certain blood tests and before operations but what about the religious practice of fasting.

How many times have you gone to church only to find the pastor or minister gets up and says ‘Hey, we’re going to pray and fast for a breakthrough for the next 2 weeks.’ Most people groan at the thought and yet, fasting God’s way is different from man’s way.

Seriously, for starters you can eat what you like. Did I just get your attention. Yep, eat what you like because the fast that God wants you to do has nothing to do with going without food. Now, fasting by going without food and praying does work and there’s a reason that it works.

Have you noticed that pastors and ministers say something like ‘I don’t know why it works but it does. Something happens in the spiritual realm when you fast.’ The reason it works is this.

God only commanded the Israelites to fast on one day of the year. It was the Pharisees that increased the number of fasts the Israelites did. Now the one day of the year that God commanded the Israelites to fast was on the Day of Atonement. If you think about it, every day is a Day of Atonement because of the death and resurrection of the Lamb of God – Jesus.

It isn’t possible to have nothing to eat endlessly, you will get sick and die, so what is the fast that God approves of, and says that He approves of. Well it’s found in Isaiah and Matthew.

Isaiah 58:5-7

Is it a fast that I have chosen,

A day for a man to afflict his soul?

Is it to bow down his head like a bulrush,

And to spread out sackcloth and ashes?

Would you call this a fast,

And an acceptable day to the Lord?

(6) Is this not the fast that I have chosen

To loose the bonds of wickedness,

To undo the heavy burdens,

To let the oppressed go free,

And that you break every yoke?

(7) Is it not to share your bread with the hungry,

And that you bring to your house the poor who are cast out;

When you see the naked, that you cover him,

And not hide yourself from your own flesh?

Matthew 25:34-40

(34) Then the King will say to those on His right hand, ‘Come, you blessed of My Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world:

(35) for I was hungry and you gave Me food; I was thirsty and you gave Me drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in;

(36) I was naked and you clothed Me; I was sick and you visited Me; I was in prison and you came to Me.’’

(37) Then the righteous will answer Him saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink?

(38) When did we see You a stranger and take You in, or naked and clothe You?

(39) Or when did we see sick, or in prison, and come to You?

(40) And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me.

And that is the true fast that God wants you to do and the true fast that He approves of. Be other people focused and be generous without expectation and it will be given back to you. Fasting God’s way is a lot more fulfilling than fasting man’s way.




A few years ago I had a few weeks where I was without a car and I had a friend pick me up. On one of the trips she said to me ‘What do you think of people who drive without a licence?’

To which I replied ‘Honestly, I think it’s really selfish of them. I mean, driving is a privilege, not an automatic right and so those who want to drive should at least be considerate enough to have a licence, register and insure their cars.’

I didn’t think anything more of it but the following week when she picked me up, her car had P plates displayed, so I had to ask ‘What’s with the P plates?’

To which she said ‘You were right. I didn’t renew my licence ten years ago ,because I didn’t want to spend the money, but I realised after we spoke last week, how selfish that was, so I went and activated my licence and I have to have the plates for a year.’

But it’s true, driving is a privilege and all road users should remember that. Part of having a privilege is to be aware of the responsibilities attached. Those responsibilities include updating and paying your driver’s licence, registering and keeping up the registration and having your car insured because you never know when you’re going to be involved in an accident. Sure it’s a cost but the expense of an accident especially if it’s your fault is high, at least insurance helps some of the financial pain.

But when driving why speed? The speed limit is not a suggestion but there is a reason for it being in place. Speeding really gets you nowhere any faster. I have been at traffic lights and watched cars speed off when the light goes green.

They zoom off and yet more often than not, I catch up with them, 4 or 5 sets of lights later. It got them nowhere. But speed, people do and all it does besides using extra fuel, is increase the chances of an accident and if you’re busted, you get a fine and demerit points, and I have to ask the question ‘Was it really worth it?’

Seriously, you know where you’re going, make sure that you allow sufficient time to get there. Allow for hold ups and slow traffic. Speaking of slow traffic, there’s nothing slower than an accident or road works to slow traffic right down. Yet people get so impatient. I get that it can be frustrating, I’ve had to sit through many a time of traffic not going anywhere. The longest was almost 2 hours to get through a section because of not 1 but 2 accidents.

Getting impatient is not going to change things, it is not going to make the traffic go any faster. Sometimes you can duck down a side street and wind your way around the chaos. With road works and accident sites, quite often 3 lanes can suddenly become 2 or 1 lane and cars have to merge. Letting someone in front is a sign of maturity and a sign of generosity and really doesn’t take up too much time in the scheme of things.

But no, more often than not, people don’t let you in and you have to force the issue, or sit and wait with all the other cars behind you because of selfishness. Yet traffic would flow a lot smoother if people allowed cars to merge.

And it doesn’t get any better at night. One thing people don’t do and they should is to regularly check your lights. You can either have someone stand at the back of your car, while you flick your indicators on and off, and put your foot on the brake pedal to make sure the lights at the back are working, and then have them stand at the front of the car and check your headlights and indicators.

Or you can go down to your local shops when it is dark or only partially dark, park in the car park so that you can see your lights reflected in the window of the shop. Put your indicators on to check them and then reverse into the car park and look in your rear vision mirror. Check your indicators and brake lights and if one of them isn’t working get it fixed.

We are not mind readers and it can get frustrating if you’re sitting behind someone at a T intersection and you have no idea if they’re going left or right, and it’s not fair to not have brake lights working, which is one reason I leave a fair distance between me and the car in front.

And headlights, at night you want both of them working, especially if you are driving on country roads and make sure that if you’re going to use your high beam, if someone is coming towards you, dip them, it’s not fair to blind the other person because you’re too lazy to dip them back to low. And make sure you haven’t got your fog lights on because regardless of whether they’re on high or low, you blind people because they’re so bright. Some car lights are so bright, I have to wear sunglasses at night, and it has nothing to do with being cool, but rather to stop the glaring light from blinding me.

And if people get blinded by the lights what do you think happens to the poor animals who have no road sense at all. They either panic or freeze and you don’t want to hit a kangaroo or a deer at high speed, they do a lot of damage.

I guess at the end of the day if everyone remembered that it’s a privilege to drive and not an automatic right, then maybe they’d think of other people on the road. And maybe if they thought of other people and obeyed the road rules, kept their cars in working order and made sure that they were up to date with all their registrations and insurances, then maybe just maybe we’d see more courteous driver behaviour, and less accidents and road rage and people would arrive at their destination in one piece.

The Beginning

I’ve decided to start a blog. Don’t know how it will go but I do know I’ll probably offend someone at some point in time. It’s not intentional but I can be very blunt. People who know me, know that I can also be incredibly accurate in what I say, to the point, a lot of people don’t talk to me, unless they want the truth said to them.

When they want an answer to a question and they don’t want people to sugar coat it or say what they think the person wants to hear then they come to me because I say it how it is. I think the world needs people like that. Those who call it how they see it.

So I am going to write about different things – – Social Justice issues, people’s behaviour in general, I may even dare to tread into the arena of political and religious issues.

At the moment I am writing an eBook called ‘Flowers won’t work this time’ and the theme is Domestic Violence and how it is running rampant throughout society and how society needs to step up to the plate and say ‘Enough, this has to stop.’ There are far too many deaths, injuries and emotional turmoil in our society.